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Online Masterclass | Relationship mediation: A facilitative process for people in intimate relationships to enrich their togetherness

with Mieke Brandon and Linda Kochanski

Wednesdays 11,18 and 25 August 2021 | 11.00am-12.30pm AEST | Zoom

Relationship mediation: A facilitative process for people in intimate relationships to enrich their togetherness.


  • To encourage FDR mediator to include Relationship Mediation (RM) into their practice

  • To familiarise practitioners with the RM process and beyond

  • To use a multi-generational Family-chart or Genogram

  • To focus on partners’ levels of connectedness, and

  • To provide insight into typical relationship conflict patterns

  • To use Solution-focused techniques to establish their hopes and goals for their relationship

  • To create a balanced relationship with we, me and family time

  • When participants, as a result of relationship mediation, decide to separate, establish why and how they can move forward respectfully.

The focus is:

  • The wellbeing of relationships; the partners’ strengths and hopes to be able enrich their togetherness through exploration of their goals for their individual and joint interests for their future together.

  • It is for people, regardless of gender, in intimate ongoing relationships, whether married or not married, with or without children who want to enrich their relationship and gain insight to manage their conflict patterns through more constructive communication skills.

The aim of Relationship mediation training is for participants to gain:

  • A deeper understanding of participants, in relationship mediation, individual and relational interests and needs.

  • An understanding where each partner is coming from, to help them to grow closer together

  • Resources for Guidelines for behavioural changes to be able to address friction

  • Skills & techniques to assist couples to resolve their differences and establish their own solutions to their disputes.

The how of relationship mediation:

Process: It is a solution-focused short term facilitative process.

It is similar to any family mediation or FDR Intake, premeditation and facilitative mediation, according to National Mediator Standards, ideally no separate sessions, draft agreements, homework, additional session(s), Template for agreements and review period.

Content: Participants address each other regarding:

  • How each contributes to the wellbeing of the relationship

  • What about their differences and compatibilities?

  • What they are hoping for from the relationship

  • How can partners improve their communication skills to share underlying emotions to get to interests when trying to manage re-occurring disputes within the family.

About the presenters

Mieke Brandon
Experienced mediator, trainer, coach, assessor, supervisor and author

Mieke became a mediator in 1990 and specialised in family and workplace mediation. From 1993 to 2007 she worked for Relationships Australia in Brisbane as a senior supervisor and trainer.

Being self-employed for the last 30 years Mieke has worked for many universities and non-government organisations and now continues her work as a dispute resolution consultant, supervisor, and author.

She says she is now “post-career”.

Mieke has published many articles and presented workshops here and overseas. She is the co-author of Mediating with Families now in its 4th edition 2018.

Mieke is currently a Director on the Board of the Resolution Institute and the Board of Editorial Consultants of the Australasian Dispute Resolution Journal.

Linda Kochanski

Linda started her professional life as a lawyer specialising in Family and Criminal law. This is where she tripped over mediation in the early 1990s, as a better alternative for families in pain over separation. She has mediated since as a private mediator as well as a consultant to panels and community organisations. In the area of relationship mediation particularly Family Law matters.

Linda is both NMAS Accredited and holds registration as a FDRP.

Linda was elected as a Director of the Mediation Standards Board in 2016. In 2018, Linda was FDRP of the Year and ADR Academic in the ADR Awards.

Linda has been involved in mediation training since 1996 and has held the position of Co-Director of Bond Dispute Resolution Centre (2012–2015) and presently is Practice Leader for Dispute Resolution Programs, College of Law. She has been widely published and presents at National and International Conferences on all aspects of family mediation practice and dispute resolution education.

Timing: Please note this session runs from 11.00am–12.30pm (AEST).

Technology required: Zoom application, PC/laptop/tablet/smartphone, Internet connection, sound/speakers or a headset and an in-built microphone.